Do we mean what we say?

Have you ever encountered a person who, no matter how good you are to them, somehow can find a way to hurt your feelings? I had this experience today. There are certain people in our lives who we just can't seem to be mean to. You can try and try and no matter how much effort you put forth into doing so, you just can't seem to say, "You know what? You're really not worth it." Because for some reason or another, that person still is completely worth it--even with the ups and downs. That person is still a very important part of your life.

But why is it that certain people just have it in them to turn on others? Seemingly, they feel as though that person in their life can be the one who they can treat you poorly at times and be the nicest at others? True, they know the other will always be there. And also true they might not believe that simple remarks or lack of consideration might actually be offensive or hurtful. But for the most part, I believe each and every one of use can pretty much gage the sensitivity factor in another--especially someone we have known over a period of time. Let me go further by saying sometimes we even play off of that factor.

How would the tides turn if that one person who usually doesn't have it in them to finally walk away, actually did? Then, and only then, would the other contemplate the effects of their seemingly harmless disconcern of emotion? And would it be too late? Because once you have decided that maybe, just maybe, it really isn't worth it, will you ever reconsider your stance? Or, will it perhaps be the decision that they have been pushing you to make all along?

What comes first? The other realizing they have someone like you in their life or you realizing you may not necessarily want all of them?