Forgive & Forget or Forgive & Regret
What is it about chemistry that makes us so delicate in the way we interact? When I was younger it used to be that "2 is company and 3 is a crowd". And now that I am a 25, I would have thought that this equation would no longer hold true. As it seems, it is still very much true indeed. This past weekend, I went away with 3 other girlfriends of mine. One-to-one, we have very stable friendships. Granted, some bonds are stronger than others. When we are together for short periods of time, the chemistry is fine as well. Everyone serves a function and has a role. We accept our roles and hold a conversation exceptionally well. But for some reason, this past weekend did not work out quite as I had hoped. Quite often, there were times of tension and bitterness within the group. And now that we're back, some of us have found it difficult to mingle with the others without offending any other people(s). I am finding it difficult to adapt to.
In the same light, why is it that people with whom we may have drifted from in the past can somehow find a way back into our lives relatively easily? I can attest to having people in my life who have somehow found their way back into my "circle of friendship" even after some not so good moments. For example, have you ever had someone who is a close friend but perhaps they move away, you lose contact and when you see them years later, you pick up exactly where you left off, as if no time has passed at all? What about someone you may have had an encounter with? Have you ever found yourself finally excepting that the past is the past and upon conclusion of that past, the future might actually be well worth all the BS you went through to get there? Sometimes we form certain connections with certain people that allow them to have a different place in our lives, in our hearts, than others. These people have a way of getting out of the "dog house", though they may find themselves back in it at some point in time. Yet others, can so easily rub you the wrong way that you wouldn't ever give them the chance to redeem themselves. Why is it we can so easily forgive some people for such big things and others we can't see past silly comments or actions?
What justifies our willingness to forgive and forget?
PS-Welcome back to my blog postings!!!! Sorry I have been away so long.
In the same light, why is it that people with whom we may have drifted from in the past can somehow find a way back into our lives relatively easily? I can attest to having people in my life who have somehow found their way back into my "circle of friendship" even after some not so good moments. For example, have you ever had someone who is a close friend but perhaps they move away, you lose contact and when you see them years later, you pick up exactly where you left off, as if no time has passed at all? What about someone you may have had an encounter with? Have you ever found yourself finally excepting that the past is the past and upon conclusion of that past, the future might actually be well worth all the BS you went through to get there? Sometimes we form certain connections with certain people that allow them to have a different place in our lives, in our hearts, than others. These people have a way of getting out of the "dog house", though they may find themselves back in it at some point in time. Yet others, can so easily rub you the wrong way that you wouldn't ever give them the chance to redeem themselves. Why is it we can so easily forgive some people for such big things and others we can't see past silly comments or actions?
What justifies our willingness to forgive and forget?
PS-Welcome back to my blog postings!!!! Sorry I have been away so long.
posted by Nif | 8:34 PM
1 Comments:
Maybe sometimes people are just dam annoying but in the end you forgive them because the good is bigger than the bad. Anyway we do not know any annoying people I do not know what you are talking about. HEHEHHEE
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